Folks: “Is that this your second?”
Me: “No, it’s my fourth.”
Folks: “Huh? Ohhhh. Wow. Uh…”
Me: “Don’t fear, my situation will not be contagious.”
Being pregnant with child #four has garnered some private, awkward and downright hysterical questions and feedback from “The Folks.” Listed here are some examples:
Was this one deliberate?
How outdated are your different kids?
Do you keep at dwelling with them?
What does your husband do?
Is that this your final?
Wow! School might be enjoyable!
If we at the moment had three boys or three ladies, I’m positive the primary query can be:
You gotta be hoping for a lady.
I guess your husband desperately desires that son!
I’ll begin by answering the questions some folks have had the heart to ask and a few of you might be questioning.
Was this one deliberate? Sure, this youngster was deliberate. My husband would love eight, we now have settled on four.
How outdated are your different kids? 6, four, and a couple of.
Do you keep at dwelling with them? I do. I work at home writing and working my very own social media enterprise, and I completely find it irresistible.
What does your husband do? Haha. I’ll let him reply that one. And no, he isn’t a physician or doing something unlawful.
Is that this your final? Completely, sure. Lord keen. My physique has been by rather a lot in 6 years, and I’m too outdated for this ish.
Wow! School might be enjoyable! By no means too quickly to push for these scholarships, eh?
I would be the first to confess, 4 kids isn’t precisely widespread nowadays. In actual fact, I can’t consider anybody else in our neighborhood who has 4 youngsters. Two and three kids appear to be the magic numbers.
Our household takes night walks to the park, and as we move, pleasant folks will take a look at my rising stomach after which take a psychological headcount of our kids. Often, they smile and stroll on. Generally, they cease and chat. The identical factor occurs at Chick-fil-A and Goal. I do know, 4 is slightly uncommon and it generates some questions.
Hey, I’m not throwing stones in any respect. I’ve been in your sneakers too!
The different evening my husband and I have been sitting on a bench whereas the youngsters performed on the playground and we seen a big van parked within the car parking zone. My husband is one among seven kids. Breathe that one in… it will get rather a lot of blended reactions. Particularly him being a toddler of a giant household and wanting a big household in return.
He talked about to me that the van seems to be like a more moderen mannequin of the one that they had rising up. Our dialog shifted to one thing else till we seen the playground beginning to filter out.
There was a mother and pa standing subsequent to a double stroller with a bunch of children swarming them. We shortly did a headcount. There have been six ladies, presumably seven. The one within the stroller was too lined to inform if it was a boy or lady.
Me: Wow, that’s a whole lot of ladies!
That poor dad.
I can’t think about the weddings.
I ponder in the event that they saved making an attempt for that boy and it by no means labored?
That poor mother.
She seems to be pregnant once more.
No, that’s only a stomach that’s carried six lives.
OMG, the oldest seems to be like she’s 9.
Are there twins in there?
There should be twins.
I ponder if she stays dwelling?
She has to remain dwelling.
I guess she homeschools.
That must be their van.
That’s a very nice van.
I ponder what their jobs are?
Think about that grocery invoice!
Oh, and faculty, ouch.
I wish to speak to her.
I wish to ask her so many questions.
No, that’s impolite.
She in all probability looks like a freak present.
I’m going to sit down and be quiet and stare and smile and stare some extra.
You see?! Responsible as charged!
I’m solely 20 weeks with child #four, however this being pregnant is getting ready me for the gawks and stares and feedback which might be to come back. Truthfully, I get pleasure from it and keep a great humorousness about it. I wasn’t kidding after I instructed you my response to different mothers is to not fear and that my situation isn’t contagious.
As I’ve talked about right here earlier than, I’m an solely youngster and as a child I continuously acquired feedback like:
Oh, you should be so spoiled.
Why didn’t your mother and pa have any extra youngsters?
Who do you play with?
I’m so jealous you get something you need.
I guess your loved ones is so wealthy.
Oh, you fly to trip, we now have to drive.
Do you get to eat out at eating places rather a lot?
I’m so jealous.
I hated being an solely youngster. And I can’t even think about the feedback my mother and father acquired.
That being mentioned, when you’re a mother of 1 or a mother of seven ladies, embrace it! Each single youngster is a present. There are moments all through the day when I’ll selfishly assume, how on earth can my coronary heart deal with yet another youngster to like? How is it attainable to have 4 kids to feed and bathe and wipe tears and kiss boo-boos? Will I ever sleep once more? Will I ever get my physique again from carrying infants and breastfeeding? How am I going to handle all of this chaos? How will we survive?
However I do know the second this final child is born, I’ll burst into tears of pleasure, and tears of disappointment…that that is the final hurrah in my nice being pregnant journey.